Heyjay asked:
I’m super slow at EVERYTHING and when I ask for help, I get turned down. The world is running right passed me and they don’t want me to slow them down, so all I can really say is, “Don’t let me interfere with your life.” I **** asking for help and would love to do things for myself, but I didn’t have that luxury while growing up to learn. Those I’ve ask told me it was no big deal, so I shouldn’t worry, so they did it for me. I’ve always resented that, because now, as an adult, I don’t have the know-how and I’m judge, criticised and made fun of. Just one day without, “How do I do this?,” “This doesn’t make any sense to me,” and “Someone please explain this - in simple English.” If I can’t run alongside everyone, I’m the one who’s missing out, as if it were by choice. To be clear on what I need help with, just pick any topic; it doesn’t matter what subject. I even get, “If we don’t know what the problem is, how can we help?” If I knew that, chances are higher that I could do it.
I appreciate the small things as well as those few skills I do. But why am I being deprived of learning the needs that will moving along with life and not the sidelines, smelling the roses. I ask people, politely, “I tried to do this on my own, but I just don’t understand it. Could you please help?” I get “I don’t know how to help.”
I have so much potentals, yet they’re being wasted, because I don’t know how to do it.
I’m getting really tired of explaining myself and still have the same responses of “What’s your question?” or “I don’t understand your question.”
I’m super slow at EVERYTHING and when I ask for help, I get turned down. The world is running right passed me and they don’t want me to slow them down, so all I can really say is, “Don’t let me interfere with your life.” I **** asking for help and would love to do things for myself, but I didn’t have that luxury while growing up to learn. Those I’ve ask told me it was no big deal, so I shouldn’t worry, so they did it for me. I’ve always resented that, because now, as an adult, I don’t have the know-how and I’m judge, criticised and made fun of. Just one day without, “How do I do this?,” “This doesn’t make any sense to me,” and “Someone please explain this - in simple English.” If I can’t run alongside everyone, I’m the one who’s missing out, as if it were by choice. To be clear on what I need help with, just pick any topic; it doesn’t matter what subject. I even get, “If we don’t know what the problem is, how can we help?” If I knew that, chances are higher that I could do it.
I appreciate the small things as well as those few skills I do. But why am I being deprived of learning the needs that will moving along with life and not the sidelines, smelling the roses. I ask people, politely, “I tried to do this on my own, but I just don’t understand it. Could you please help?” I get “I don’t know how to help.”
I have so much potentals, yet they’re being wasted, because I don’t know how to do it.
I’m getting really tired of explaining myself and still have the same responses of “What’s your question?” or “I don’t understand your question.”
It all comes down to people don’t understand how some of us have a difficult time learning. It’s not one thing I’m struggling with. It’s an ongoing problem, every single day. People would much prefer asking someone who can help than the one who doesn’t understand, but wants to.
Don’t compare me to those who are physically disabled. They have their brains to figure out how to compromise. How does a learning impaired figure out how to get around it?
Terri
February 9th, 2009 |
Tags: Adult, Smelling The Roses